How to Cure Pastor Burnout

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It’s no secret that being a pastor is hard. Your sermons can take 30 hours or more per week. Some people expect you to be available constantly. You’re often exposed to the worst moments and darkest secrets of people you care about. You don’t clock out at the end of the day. And it’s all too easy to fall prey to the feeling that there’s always more to sacrifice for the people you serve.

And still, statistics suggest that the vast majority of pastors love their jobs.

Despite that passion, the accumulation of stress and its negative impact on health leads some pastors to give up their calling. If you want to lead your church for as long as you can, you have to take care of yourself.

Several years ago, the New York Times observed that “members of the clergy now suffer from obesity, hypertension and depression at rates higher than most Americans. In the last decade, their use of antidepressants has risen, while their life expectancy has fallen.”

The solution proposed by healthcare experts and religious leaders? Rest.

I can’t snap my fingers and give you a sabbatical, but if you or a pastor you know is on the brink of burnout, here are some things you can do to make regular rest a reality:

1. Find a small group you don’t have to lead

I’m in a small group with a pastor who works at a church I don’t attend. Throughout the week, he pours everything he can into his relationships with the young adults he serves. In our small group, he just shows up with his family and enjoys the company of his brothers and sisters in Christ.

He doesn’t have to prepare anything. He doesn’t have to teach anything. He can choose to share what’s on his heart and what God’s been teaching him—or just listen.

How many relationships in your life require you to sacrifice something? Wisdom, compassion, grace, and empathy are powerful gifts pastors try to bring to every relationship—regardless of if it’s reciprocated. God has an infinite supply of each of those blessings, and an infinite capacity to give them—but you don’t.

Pouring yourself out for the body without letting the body pour into you is like being a heart that only has arteries. Sooner or later, you’re going to bleed out.

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I’m not suggesting there is some magic ratio of relationships you pour into vs. relationships that pour into you. Maybe for you, adding rest into your schedule means gathering with other local pastors, or a close friend. It shouldn’t feel like “one more thing” in your week.

Whatever it looks like, make time for relationships that permit you to just be. Relationships that fill you up and prepare you to pour out again.

2. Create healthy boundaries

One pastor I know found himself constantly drained. Members of the congregation loved that they could come to him for anything, at any time. He loved it too—for a while. As a pastor, it was exactly what he signed up for—he loves developing leaders and building people up and serving his congregation. But as many pastors know all too well, this role stretches well beyond 9–5. When you’re too available, the window for rest is constantly shrinking.

Without boundaries, this pastor was going to burnout.

A youth leader on my team recently shared that as a full-time teacher and a wife, she couldn’t be as available to the girls she was leading, and she was very conflicted about it. Investing in relationships and being available to people who need you is important—but how do you balance work, life, and ministry without collapsing under the weight?

For her, the solution was to make herself available to any and all of her girls at specific times. Rather than bending over backwards to fit into their schedules, she made it clear that she’s always available at a specific time, and that she wants to spend that time with them.

For some, the solution may mean being less available—or else building this availability into your regular schedule. Obviously life doesn’t fit into our schedules perfectly. God isn’t bound to our calendars, itineraries, or templates for ministry. But sooner or later, your congregation has to accept that pastors still exist in the fourth dimension (time), and are bound by human limits.

If you don’t set healthy boundaries because you want to maximize your impact, think about what squeezing in a little extra work now could cost you later. If you burn out, that’s it. You’re done. You’re trying to build a fire that lasts, not light a firework.

3. Seek counsel regularly

Pastors are exposed to the worst days, worst secrets, and worst mistakes of people they love on a regular basis.

You may not always need professional help to process what you’re going through, but you should always at least have someone (or a group of people) walking through the valleys with you, just as you do for your congregation. Pastors spend a lot of time in the valleys anyway—don’t make those valleys deeper by isolating yourself from help.

People have high expectations for the morality of pastors that often extend far beyond the accountability of James 3:1. Some people unfairly expect too much from pastors’ spouses, children, and lives—as if pastors’ families are somehow more than human. This can make some pastors feel so isolated that they don’t ask for help when they truly need it. Family conflicts or tension can get dismissed, or addressed inadequately, creating long-term problems that only get worse.

Seeking counsel is not admitting defeat or showing weakness—it’s an intentional commitment to progress as a person and a pastor.

4. Celebrate with your church

Rigid routines and never-ending cycles of busyness can accelerate pastor burnout. When you’re stuck thinking about ministry in terms of the Christmas, Easter, summer slump, and back-to-school cycle, it’s easy to lose sight of the positive things occurring in your church.

Break up your calendar by taking time to recognize the things worth celebrating in your congregation. Make an intentional effort to call out volunteer or staff appreciation, baptism, growing families, students, service projects, and milestones of spiritual growth.

Pastors are constantly invited into crises and asked to help people process tragedy. To stay emotionally and spiritually healthy, churches need to celebrate together.

5. Build a volunteer program

There are people in your church just waiting to be asked to help share the load. Maybe they don’t know how to help. Maybe they haven’t been invited to help in the right way yet. If your church staff is overburdened, and your time as a pastor brings you more stress and heartache than joy, it might be time to refill your pool of church volunteers.

You don’t have to be a one-person team. You weren’t designed to be the entire body of Christ. Maybe it’s time to multiply—by building (or strengthening) your volunteer program. Right now, Proclaim Church Presentation Software is giving away a free ebook packed with practical insights about how to recruit, train, and retain a team of volunteers.

I wrote it for the pastor who’s tired of asking, “Can someone please volunteer?” and waiting for the awkward silence that follows. Together we’ll explore:

  • Practical strategies to recruit more volunteers who stay involved.
  • Helpful methods to train volunteers with different learning styles, so less people feel out of place.
  • Thoughtful ways to appreciate the volunteers you have, so people want to stay as long as they can.
  • Intentional steps to address volunteer burnout before it affects your team.

We’re giving away the Logos edition of Can Someone Please Volunteer? as well as a PDF you can print or share. I hope this helps you build a team that lasts, and that it empowers you to continue pouring into your congregation.

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Comments

  1. Fr. Bo Majors says:

    This morning, as I prepared for my daily devotion and time of prayer, I ran across this article which the Lord definitely placed here for me to read. I am a Catholic priest, an associate pastor of a very large parish. Sometimes I feel very scattered and torn this way and that, and I suffer for not making certain things in my own personal life a priority: I exercise only twice a week for an hour (not enough to do anything), I find myself cutting short preparation for Sunday sermons, I find no time for study and when I do I am so exhausted at night I cannot see straight. Sometimes, though extremely happy in ministry and with my life, I feel as though I cannot make any changes in my own life because I am not focused or rather, my focus is scattered all of the time. This article which I saw on Logos this morning really gave me food for thought. Thanks! May the Lord bless all of us in ministry.

  2. Dear Pastors: The next time you think your job is hard, look at your congregation! See the man who leaves for work at 7am each morning and doesn’t get home till 7 pm. Look at that doctor who literally holds people’s lives in his hands in the OR or emergency room. Look at that nurse who is on her feet for long shifts and doing everything from saving lives to emptying bed pans. See the lawyer who has to deal with people who re going through personal difficulties while he has to help them make difficult decisions. See that teacher trying to teach a room full of children, each with their own individual challenges. Your job is no harder than theirs. (Sorry for the rant, but those are the facts. Be as thankful as Paul that God has put you into the work of the ministry.)

    • Justin Lopez says:

      Dear Ron Bean,
      I agree with you that there are many people in our Churches that have difficult jobs, however; in a number of ways the job of a Pastor is more difficult then theirs. None of those positions require them to be on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 52 weeks out of the year. In those positions are their families attacked? While both doctors and nurse are dealing with people’s physical lives, Pastors are dealing with their spiritual lives, which in my opinion brings a greater pressure on the Pastor. Pastors are dealing with eternity. Each week when a Pastor stands in the pulpit he is charged with brining the people the word of God and their is great pressure in that. None of the people you mentioned will ever know that pressure. While I do not believe that Pastors should use these reasons as an excuse for a pity party, Pastors have every right to express their challenges to someone who can help them navigate the difficulties of ministry. When Pastors express their struggles in ministry it is does not mean that they are not thankful that God called them into ministry.

      • Tom Swafford says:

        I agree with Justin! I think being a pastor is ranked as one of the most stressful jobs in the world.

  3. The typical expectations for a pastor are too high and unbiblical. Essentially a pastor is a church administrator in many churches where he is required to do many things making him a Jack of all trades, but a master in none. The pastor is often considered the head of his church when in reality the Bible says Christ is the head of the church. Often many churches do not have a Biblical form of leadership which should be vested in 3 or more elders of which a teaching or paid pastor is a part of. Biblically these elders are also called to be apt to teach. Thus the teaching ministry in the church, both in the pulpit and weekly bible studies is shared by the elders. This gives each elder time to develop in depth teaching for the congregation and goes a long way to avoid burn out. If the elders are committed to one another a brothers in Christ the load of pastoring a church is shared between them and they stimulate one another to grow in their gifts and ministry. This is a key way that the body Is led by example.